How to See the Good In Difficult Times

Sometimes life gives us #challenges that make us ask why. Or may I say, shout why? These challenges can range from losing a loved one, having a decrease in finances, ending a relationship, being stuck in traffic, or simply just having a bad day. Whatever the challenge may be, believe it or not the challenge also carries good with it. Little do we know in these moments what’s truly going on behind the scenes. We are unaware of the #lessons, #growth, and #abundance that these challenges have the opportunity to bring. I mean, at times how can we be aware right? Some of these trials can be excruciatingly painful. But this pain can blind us from seeing the good that comes with these obstacles. How do we get to the point where we see the good, anyways?

1) For starters, do not fight the challenge. Do not push away the feelings that arise. #Accept the challenge for what it is. #Feel as sad as you want to feel. CRY IT OUT. But then, get up. Remind yourself of your strength and resilience. You have already overcome everything you never thought you would be able to. This time is no different. Once you are through it, you will come out changed: stronger, more confident, open to love, motivated, etc.

2) Keep pushing #forward, no matter how slowly you may think you are going. Take it one day and one moment at a time. Keep your focus on what you can control: yourself. This includes: the #thoughts you think (keep your thoughts positive and healthy), the #food you eat (food is fuel), the amount of #sleep you get (your body needs to rest and recharge), how much you move your body (stay #active), what and who you give your #energy to (be careful with what you watch, read, listen to). The more we focus on what we can control, which is ourselves, the more capable we become of being able to handle the things we cannot control.

3) Most importantly, stay #present and count your #blessings. Oftentimes we see that there is more to be #grateful for than we realize. Of course, you may not be able to see the bright side right away and that is perfectly okay. Like I mentioned earlier, feel your feelings and cry it out if you need to. But then bring yourself back to the present moment, breathe, and turn your switch on to gratitude. Here are some examples of how we can experience gratitude during hardships.

Are you grieving? #Grief is proof that we have experienced love. Be grateful for the love you were given in this lifetime, not everyone gets to experience such a thing. Are you being taught #patience? Be grateful that such a valuable skill is being presented to you. Are you being reminded that you need to stop keeping negative #thoughts on repeat like a broken record? Be grateful for the opportunity to #improve your #habits and your life. Are you being guided to end toxic situations? Be grateful that you are being #redirected to the chapter of your life that is more in #alignment with your true self and not your trauma self.

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Life is all about #perspective. You can choose to see the positive, healing perspective of every situation or you can choose to see the negative. Remember that these situations are happening for you, not to you. 1) Accept the situation and go through your emotions. The only way out is through. 2) Continue filling your cup and moving forward. Remember, only focus on what you can control, which is yourself. 3) Stay present and grateful. Blessings are everywhere; life itself is a blessing.

These tough times will pass, just like every other moment in life. Relax, breathe, and be grateful for the gift of life you currently have.

Gracias!